Don’t get Caught in this Trap!

By March 5, 2018General News

Don’t get Caught in this Trap!

Most of us have faced situations where team members come to us to complain about someone, some policy or some decision.  Oftentimes they are trying to leverage our relationship to get what they want.  Don’t get caught is this trap – don’t lend a sympathetic ear without reading the following article by Mike Paton, EOS Worldwide Visionary.  Also, I encourage you to link to the references at the bottom for more great stuff on this subject.


Written by Mike Paton on March 1, 2018

Two epidemics kill cultures: end runs and unresolved complaining. Both waste time and energy, and are ultimately toxic to the health and productivity of your company. Luckily, these epidemics can be cured by asking a simple, powerful question.

Epidemic #1: The End Run

An end run happens when an employee goes around a manager to complain or get a better/different answer to his or her problem. At the conclusion of the end run, if you don’t ask the question, you’re going to start the spread of a plague in your organization.

If you’re the recipient of the end run, you can listen and coach, but you should never make a decision. When you decide, you cut the manager in question off at the knees and leave him or her powerless to do the job he or she is there to do. Listen carefully, and at the end of the conversation, ask the question.

Epidemic #2: Unproductive Complaining

Unproductive complaining is when someone is not sharing an issue to solve it, but is instead politicking, backstabbing, and/or positioning. Every organization seems to have one person everyone complains to. That person becomes the “complaint department.”

When you receive unproductive complaining, you’re being exposed to a poison. If you don’t ask the question at the end of the complaining, you leave that poison in your organization to grow and spread. At the conclusion of the complaint, ask the question, and you stop it in its tracks.

The Question

So, what’s the question that you need to ask at the end of an end run, or after unproductive complaining? It’s simply this:

“Are you going to tell ’em, or am I going to tell ’em? Because one of us needs to tell ’em.”

I promise you this works. This question will wipe out end runs and unproductive complaining organization-wide within a month.

Take a moment and write this question down on a piece of paper. Keep it on your desk for the next time someone comes to you with an end run or an unproductive complaint. You’ll see exactly what I mean.

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